Me: *raising my hand*
How many of you have been Regina George?
Me: *raising my hand slowly*
If you answered no to the second question – then you might be in denial.
We are all Regina George. Don’t know what I’m talking about when I’m referring to being a mean girl or being Regina George? After a quick search on the inter-webs I found this easy explantation: The term was popularized by the movie Mean Girls, starring Lindsay Lohan. Mean girl behavior includes gossip, verbal put-downs of others, bullying, backstabbing, and using others to get ahead. Girls who are friendly one minute, and mean the next may be referred to as frenemies.
We are all Regina George.
What got me thinking about this was a conversation I had with a few of my fellow mom bloggers recently about whether or not we are mean girls. Confession – I have been Regina.. See a theme to my blogs? Apparently I confess a lot but I really am a good person! So does this mean you should be worried that I talk about you? Maybe. Do I say mean stuff or tell your secrets? No I do not and will not. The times I do talk about people – whatever the conversation is – I will tell the truth.
Recently I gossiped to one of my best friends about another friend who had a simple cosmetic procedure done. I talked about how I thought the procedure was unnecessary because this friend is naturally beautiful. I’m sure the friends who had work done was something that they had planned for some time and didn’t make the decision lightly. Yes – I gossip or talk about people or things they have done. When I do though, I always keep in mind that whatever I am saying behind their backs will always be something I would say to their face. Read that sentence again.
Whatever I am saying behind someone’s back will always be something I would say to their face.
We are all Regina George at one time or another. Even when we try not to we can get caught up in a conversation and before we know it we have verbal diarrhea. It’s human nature to share gossip with your friends or family about other friends, family, or ex-friends. It’s been rumored that gossiping can actually make you feel better about yourself and helps us bond with others. I don’t know if that’s really true but I did read it on the internet so maybe there’s a hint of truth to it.
Even IF some gossiping can be good, remember what if feels like to be gossiped about. You know the rule: If you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything. Don’t be Regina George.